Monday, July 16, 2012

The Backdoor of Our Home Full of Love

I'm more than two years married from my five-year long steady boyfriend since college, and I must say, in more than eight years, we've been through a lot of ups and downs. One can call it hardship; staying steady for the past half decade, the adjustment periods for newly weds and now as new parents, like a boat sailing, we've passed storms while holding hands together, and we enjoy sunsets over the ocean's blue blanket of water with my head on his shoulder.


We know we have  a lifetime to prove our sacred vow of marriage, yet these small milestones for both us is a great achievement!  We are aware that in our times where divorce, annulment and separation is just a step away, we manage to hold on to our relationship. Our secrets? Well, it's not actually a secret, I would prefer calling it our standards and principles in life.

First off, we both believe that God is the originator of marriage, hence, it is then right for us to find guidelines for our marriage in His word, The Holy Scriptures. It helps us to remind ourselves on what are our roles as a couple, as husband and wife. By sincerely trying to  apply the Bible principles in our family lives, we found great happiness and inner peace in our circle.

our wedding rings

We learned that we should compliment each other just like this:



Never too young nor too old to compliment each other. Be sweet, stay crazy inlove! Continue courting your wife, and continue respecting your husband. On our case, we try to set a dinner date like we used to when we were just dating. We also try to avoid using each other, instead of thinking about "me, myself and I", we try to think as a team, "we, us, and our". And instead of thinking about myself, I try to think about his personal interest first.

We learned that having intimate communication is a must too. This will iron out small misunderstandings hence avoiding issues to explode like bombs on our faces. This is also a good way to make the right decisions in our relationship, by considering each other's opinions and point of view of the matter. Could you believe that by hearing one's side, sometimes you'll realize, "hey, I didn't saw it that way...", like there's a new light or angle that you hadn't notice and vice versa. We usually talk about what went on our day before going to bed after praying together, or by video/call/text whenever husband is away.

A perfect marriage is an illusion,  but happiness in a relationship nowadays is still unbelievably possible!
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Oh yes! There are times for romance and fight. Love covers sin, and when you love someone, you'll try to see a way to forgive and forget. This is on a general point of view however, because it really depends on how serious the committed "crime" is. Well, we learned to forgive each other, forget the issue and try to never raise it up again, or else we'll end up in a cycle of "violence, remorse, romance" again and again. And that would make the relationship unhealthy.

Keeping your cool when he's hot! Husband is so committed to his work, and I just hate it when we face our laptops and make our seats hot! So, the stubborn me always keep on pestering him! Hehehe Sense of Humor is one of the sweetest ingredients of happy relationship! There's this time when he's ignoring me,
I wrote "I <3 U" on his forehead using my red lipstick! ;P
and told him, one big smile on the camera and I'll be gone! See, I got what I asked for! I just love this photo!

 The shivery shudders lovers felt during their first years in a relationship will gradually slow down and on some point stop, but staying committed will keep the fire burning!
when I was 8 months pregnant
"...If you really love the person you intend to marry, commitment will not seem like a burden. Instead, it will be viewed as a source of security. The sense of commitment... will make a couple want to stay together... and be supportive of each other come what may." - The Secret of Family Happiness
It is possible for relationships to stay strong! :) Just like Tide with Downy Bangong Padala video entitled “Pag-ibig na Pangmatagalan”

Now, I could definitely say, Love keeps the world go round! :) Just stay optimistic and true to yourself and honest to your partner all the time. <3 <3 <3

50 comments:

  1. Congrats, you seem so happy, I hope you would be able to find more happiness in your marriage.

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  2. Such an inspiring post sis! Stay happy:)

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    1. thank you so much sis, i hope your inspired and happy everyday too

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  3. Stay happy in love sis :)
    I've been married to my husband for 5 years now, and everyday is always like a different day. Laughing is an essential part of a married life.

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    1. your right, laughing makes a relationship light and drama free :P

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  4. I like that quote about commitment and I agree that it should never be a burden for a person you truly love. I pray that your marriage will always be blessed :-)

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    1. thank you so much for your sweet wishes...
      commitment of both parties really is the key for long lasting relationship :)

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  5. Cute couple. Hope you guys can make it last for years to come.!

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  6. All the best to both of you :)

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  7. To put God in the center of your marriage is the most important thing. I wish you both happiness always sis. :-)

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  8. You look radiant and blooming especially on the first photo :)

    I think there is no milestone that is considered small. What you have achieved both as a couple is indeed a blessing in this time and age. More power to a happy marriage as you continue to put Christ at the apex of your relationship :D

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    1. thank you so much for the compliment and wishes sis! well, actually, the first photo was like two pictures put together! :P

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  9. I can feel you are genuinely happy in your marriage. You have noted down important points that married couple should do.

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    1. thank you for your positive comments, and i do hope we stay genuinely happy and i know we will as long as we have God as the center of our marriage! God bless! :0)

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  10. Congrats!
    True love nowadays is rare. :)
    I know you two will be able to prove the sacredness of your vow because God is in the center of your marriage.

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    1. thank you sis, i sure hope, may God bless all our endeavors. :)

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  11. I agree that we should look into God's Word to help us navigate the challenges and realities of married life :) May God continue to bless your joint journey this year and always :)

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    1. married or not, we all need God's guidance. thank you for your wishes :)

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  12. May you both continue to find happiness in each other through God's love.

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  13. love and respect should always be there. stay happy! :)

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  14. stay in love and wish you a blissful relationship

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  15. Stay happy! God bless you both.

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  16. Congratulations to both of you. I can see that you are really happy.

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  17. congrats! there will always be adjustments no matter how many years you have been together.

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  18. Your relationship will be blessed because you both believe that you're guided by God. You're such a lovely couple! Great pics!

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  19. @kat - thank you for your best wishes sis

    @january - true, also commitment is a must :)

    @reese - hope your wishes for us do come true <3

    @mommy maye - we'll do our best, hehe God bless you too mommy

    @Allan - thank you daddy allan :P

    @anne lei - yes, your right. like when just got married, transition from 2 to 1, from couples to parents, and so on.. :P

    @jen - thank you jen, i actually cant decide which pics to use, but finally i decided to put what are available. :P

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  20. congrats and best wishes to both of you!

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  21. Aww. You guys seem so happy! I guess God being the center of your relationship is the best trick. Your words are just so heartwarming. :)

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  22. Congrats! Wishing you all the blessings for you and your hubby! :D

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  23. Kinilig ako :D

    <3.3

    I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years already. He was just a stalker but now he is my boyfriend. Hope we can last longs.

    Keep the sparks fly you two. Wishing you the best love story. :)

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  24. Stay in-love and be happy :) God's blessings to both of you :) keep faith!

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  25. Sweet! :) stay in love! always make God the center of your relationship! :)

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  26. inspiring post, stay happy and in love congrats...

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  27. very heartwarming post... stay happy in your married life, and always remember to put God in your midst. :-)

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  28. Ang tamis! Congratulations on staying strong and happily married :)

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  29. You sound so happy with the life that you choose and that's being with the man that u loves most! Congrats! :)

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  30. Congratulations on a happy marriage!~
    It's hard to stay committed and true to your vows but it seems you already know how and what to do.
    Keep the faith! :)

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  31. congratulations!!! being married and staying married is not easy but i believe that the key is to a happy marriage is a great sense of humor

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  32. wow.. we are in the same age sis in marriage life... and almost the same age being bf and gf din.. almost 6 yrs nga lang kami naging bf. Anyway, I wish you more happiness and may your union together be fruitful and forever. So both looks so perfect!

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  33. Congrats sis and I wish you all the best in life! :)

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  34. just be strong always have a grateful heart to stay and maintain good marriage. Nurture the vow especially the husband. :-).

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  35. Yeah! communication is the most important key. good for you found a great partner and you complement each other.

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  36. I see that you are happily married. May your love last forever!

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  37. great views on commitment and marriage..stay happy in love :)

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  38. marriage is indeed complicated, with bliss and trials. congratulations to both of you

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